5. We have already agreed to everything. You may have sat down and agreed to everything. You may have even typed it up and signed it. But all of that may go down the drain, when it actually comes down to the process of the the divorce. I have seen that happen more times than not. Divorce somehow has a way of making the ugly come out in even the best people. They are hurt and and they want their spouse to feel their hurt. Suddenly those agreements go are non-existent.
4. My spouse is not going to hire an attorney. I had this happen just this past week. Guess what? The spouse hired an attorney. And as they should! You cannot count on the fact that everything is just going to go your way during the divorce process. You must be willing to compromise on some things.
3. I know my soon-to-be-ex-spouse better than you (attorney). Therefore, I am not going to listen to my attorney's advice. You hired your attorney for a reason. You really should listen to your attorney. Your attorney deals with these types of situations on a daily basis. He or she is a pretty good predictor of how spouses will react in certain situations. It's usually a good idea to listen!
2. This is going to be easy. The minute I think this is the minute something goes terribly awry. I have learned to never think this way. And if it does end up being easy in the end, then great! (But I haven't had a family case yet that was easy.) In family cases, you are dealing with the end of a marriage, child custody, and money issues. None of these are easy issues.
1. I don't need an attorney. Even lawyers hire lawyers. Emotions are high and you are not at your best during this process. You need an advocate to stand beside you and make sure you are protected.